Friday, October 30, 2009
I have two outstanding documents... this and our immigration approval. Should we place a friendly wager on what will come first? My fingerprint appointment for immigration or the fingerprint clearance I sent in over a month ago? One would think the fingerprint clearance. My guess.... the fingerprint appointment for immigration. I truly hope I am wrong!
I guess I am done complaining though. I'm looking forward to this weekend. The kids and I are going to have a weekend of fun activities. Tim is leaving again for a week on Saturday, so we will be having fun on our own again, but still we will be having fun. Cameron has football again on Saturday. After that, in the evening we will head over to the White's for pizza and then trick or treating with the kids! It will be fun to do that with friends. Sunday the kids and I are making a neat project. My friend Charlene is going to come over and make some things with us as well! It should be fun. I'll post pictures when I am done. They are a neat pumpkin project.... late for this year's halloween decorations, but EARLY for next year!!! 364 days early to be exact :)
The kids and I are going to try some new recipes while Tim is gone. We are going to do some baking and who knows what other fun stuff we will do. If our recipes are good, we will try them out on Tim when he gets home :)
Watch for pictures of the kids in their halloween costumes! I really hope they have a good time!
Friday, October 23, 2009
One small step forward. That is how I have to look at it.
I'm hoping that our fingerprint appointment does not come at a time when either Tim or I are out of town. Tim will be home tomorrow, but then has to leave again for a week next Saturday. Then he comes home and I leave the following week for a week. It'll all work out, I'm sure! God is in control of this and therefore it will all work out perfectly!
Just had to share my exciting news with regard to the Immigration process. I can't wait to get the I171-H. That will be a wonderful day!
We're getting closer and closer Sara!!!
Thursday, October 22, 2009
I remember the day I got glasses. I was so excited, it was like Christmas and Birthday all wrapped into one! I wanted glasses SO badly. Lucky for me, I get to spend the rest of my life wearing some form of corrective lenses! Cameron is right now telling me about just how clearly he can see everything now "I can see every dot of everything on the floor". Maybe he needs to put that to good use and vacuum :)
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
On Sunday the kids and I carved pumpkins. Well, we carved one and we have two more to do. Actually, it was more like I carved and the kids watched for a bit and then went off to play while I finished. Neither one of them wanted to grab inside the pumpkin and pull out the gutts. I loved doing that when I was a kid... not so much now, but I loved it then! They wanted nothing to do with it. It was "too cold and felt too squishy". So, I ended up doing it. I forgot to get a picture of it though... I'll take one tonight and post it later.
That same day, I was getting the kids' uniforms pressed for school this week. The kids wanted to play around me, so they asked if they could build a fort in the bedroom. I said sure. This is what they came up with. It was a pretty nice fort. I think Pearl even managed to get in there once. Most of the time was spent with her just watching the kids though. They also had a "store" set up in our closet. They lived in the tent and worked at the store. I had to come to the store to buy "treats". The only things they sold were: popcorn, candy and pop. Thank goodness I like all of those things. Here are some pictures of the kids working the store and Cameron and Anna in their tent:
Cameron making sure the store inventory is correct
Anna peeking out of the tent: Cameron and the tent:
Pearl overseeing the activities (AKA "sleeping"
The kids also decided that they wanted to "camp out" Sunday night. Normally I would not let them do that on a school night, but for some reason, I thought "Why Not"? I was planning on camping out in Cameron's room, as the heat is working upstairs and was not working on the main floor. The kids wanted to sleep in our room though, so understanding it might be a bit cooler, they decided this was the place they wanted to be. So, they camped out on Sunday night. Here are some pictures of the kids getting ready for bed:
Here's one final picture of the kids enjoying their tent. They really did have a fun time making it, and it kept them occupied while I was getting things ready for the week.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Today Cameron and their son Christopher had a football game (lovingly coached by Neil and Tim) and the kids won again. Currently they are undefeated! After the game they came over to our house for dinner. We had a great time. We just sat around chatting, eating and enjoying one another's company. It was nice. The great part is, the kids get along wonderfully! They have a great time together and all get along well. Anna is stuck right between their youngest son and daughter and Cameron and Christopher are really close in age, but truthfully, they all play together well. They seem to have a lot of fun together. I really enjoy our time with them... I'm not sure what we are going to do when football ends :(
Tim leaves for Basel tomorrow. I really do have a wonderful husband. Not only did he help me all morning this morning, getting the house ready for company to come over, but he is out tonight doing some last minute grocery shopping for me, to make sure I have everything I need for me and the kids for the week. He truly puts us before himself, and I love him very much for it. He always makes sure we are good. I have plenty of people here who would be willing to help us out in a pinch, but it is good to know that my husband does his best to make sure our needs are met while he is away.
Speaking of that... funny thing happened this weekend. We needed to turn on the heat (finally) the other night, and surprise of all surprises... no heat came out. Fortunately, it is not too cold here right now because the heating repair person could not make it here until Monday. Tim was not real pleased with that, but what can you do? I was worried how I would manage, trying to get here to meet the repair person and all that good stuff, but as always, when Tim can't meet our needs, God provides someone else willing to step up to the plate and help us out. Hopefully by Monday night we will have heat again!!! It's not really as bad as it sounds, we do have two heating units and the one for the upstairs is working perfectly fine, so none of us would ever freeze to death, it is just pretty uncomfortable to not have heat in the main part of your house. But again, hopefully it will be taken care of on Monday.
Gotta run - going to go spend some more family time with my family before my husband leaves us for a week.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Today Cameron and I both had eye appointments. There was good news and bad news in there. Bad news I guess for Cameron - he needs glasses. So, we picked those out for him today and he will get them in about a week. I'm not surprised he needed them, but glad we got it taken care of. The good news for his eye appointment is that he is showing NO signs of my eye condition. It is thought to be autosomal recessive in me, in which case Cameron is a carrier, but would exhibit no symptoms. (One good gene from his dad, one bad gene from me and you need two bad to have symptoms). I still worry a bit about it because they have not yet identified the gene that causes my form of RP, therefore they can not do conclusive genetic testing to determine exactly how I carry it, and therefore if Cameron will get it. At his age, while I was extremely near sighted, I exhibited no typical symptoms. The doctor said though, that he was not concerned with Cameron as there are no symptoms or retinal changes in his eyes. Good news! I will still have it diagnostically tested later, but will wait until he is a bit older.
As for me, it was not good at all. Six months ago I went and had my eyes examined as it was a year since I had my first cataract surgery. Six months ago I did not need another cataract surgery. Today I was scheduled for surgery in December. I'm not thrilled about it, but in the end I'm hoping it will have some positive impact on my sight. I knew it was coming as I am very in tune with my eyes and knew that there had been changes recently. Cataract surgery is not "risky" for most people. In fact, it is a very common surgery. I however, have a compromised retina, therefore I am at high risk for surgical complications. My right eye is my strong eye and contributes the majority of my visual field. I had my left eye done 18 months ago and was not real worried because it contributes so little to my overall sight. Today though, it was my right eye. I'm very nervous because even though the probability is small of something going wrong, is is slightly increased for me, and the consequences for me are HUGE. Please pray with me that things go well. The surgery will beon December 1st. I'll be a bit nervous between now and then and will be anxious to see after the surgery is complete. God is in control and has given me peace with the decision to move forward with the surgery. Whatever happens is within His will. I will pray for the best but live with whatever outcome.
On a more positive note, I did find out today that are fingerprints for FBI clearance were indeed received by the FBI on the 29th of September. I was told they would be processed in a "timely fashion". I think that has already passed :) No, not really, but I am a bit impatient. Tomorrow will be three weeks since I sent them. I know they got there sooner than the 29th... they probably were just not logged in until then. I'm just glad that I know that they are there and we don't have to get fingerprinted again. I was beginning to wonder.
If I could ask that you pray for me, for the surgery and for peace in the wait, I would really appreciate it.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Speaking of fingerprints and criminal background checks... all that good stuff. I am all for making sure parents have a suitable background before handing them over a child. I mean, it is one thing to be able to biologically produce a child, the parents make that choice. But to voluntarily turn a child over to someone, you should be sure that they are not going to harm the child and can provide for them. I am ALL for that. But is there really any reason that I need to pay a TON of money for immigration approval (which will expire...why???) and even more needlessly, once I get fingerprinted ONCE, why do I need to do it again???? SEVERAL TIMES at SEVERAL DIFFERENT AGENCIES??? Can't they all just work together and agree somehow that 18 months from now my fingerprints will remain the same? I mean, unless I cut off my fingertips, or burn them with acid or something like that...they are going to be the same. And I have bigger issues if they happen to be different. I mean, I have a degree in science, but even if I didn't... I know that your fingerprints do not change. You can identify me with the ones that I had as a baby. Oh well.... it's all part of the fun (and expense!!!) of international adoption. And since I've done it at least 5 times now, and have only successfully adopted one child - I must have determined that it is VERY well worth it. With Anna I had to be re-printed once. We then had to be fingerprinted two times (once for Vietnam and then once again because our fingerprints expired while waiting to adopt from Kyrgyzstan). Neither of which led to a child. Now here we are at fingerprint session number 5. Hopefully this one will result in our daughter. That is not to mention all of the fingerprint appointments we have had locally... the police station knows us by name and we have no criminal record. I'm not even sure they check anymore because we have them write us letters so often :)
I am praying, praying, praying that things continue to move slowly. Tim and I really do deserve a break with regard to the adoption. I am so dying to meet my daughter!!! Maybe tomorrow I will tell the story of the emotional rollercoaster of today. For now though, I have kids that need their mom!!!
In Christ! (Keep praying for us in HIS name!!!)
Now if only the FBI would respond to my pleas BEGGING them for information!!!
I so enjoy clearing each one of the hurdles that brings me closer to my daughter.
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Tim leaves for Basel this weekend, so we will be spending some time this week getting ready for him to leave. He is there for a week, home for a week, back to Basel for a week, home for a week and then I leave for Basel for a week. Fun travels at the Roach household! Tim doesn't mind the travel.....personally, I could do without it!
This weekend we are having Neil and Heather over after the kids' football game. It should be a lot of fun. We always have a good time with them!
I contacted our social worker today to see where we are with our home study. I'm getting very anxious with the holidays coming up, and the delays that will cause - I'd really like to get everything done soon! I know we will have to wait on immigration approval, but I'd just like one more thing to check off of our list to get done! Hopefully I will hear some positive news back from her today! Please keep us in your prayers as we try our way through this process again!
Saturday, October 10, 2009
So, Tim was going to go pick up the kids. He said he needed to stop and drop something off in my office before he went though. Probably just another qualification book for me to review over the weekend :( It was not that at all... instead it was a beautiful pearl necklace and earrings :) I have been wanting a pearl necklace and earrings for quite some time. Tim said that I would get them when I least expected it. I really did not expect them yesterday! They are beautiful. I have a beautiful black dress that I wore to a wedding some time ago, and I had commented on how a pearl necklace and earrings would look great with that dress. I will wear it to church tomorrow and will post a picture. They are really nice! That was my sweet surprise. It was a nice pick me up to end a very tiring week.
Nothing new right now on the adoption front. We are waiting for our fingerprint clearance for FBI criminal background check. We are two weeks into our home study report wait. Hopefully we will get that soon. Tim leaves next weekend for Basel and then he is gone one week, home a week, gone a week again to Basel, he is home a week and then I leave for Basel for a week. So, there is not a whole lot of time in there for us to get things done. Uuuggghhh! I have to keep reminding myself that this is GOD'S timing, and not mine!
Today we are headed out to Cameron's football game. We are also going to go shopping for a bedspread for Sara's room. Hopefully I will find something that matches the paint I put on the walls :) Mental note... as much as you like a paint color, it might be nice to find matching bedding before you put it on the walls! Live and learn. I have never done that before where I had to find bedding to match paint - I normally do it the other way around... but this time I just feel in love with the fresh guacamole paint color. Now I just hope I can find the bedspread! I'm also getting "Sara Joy" letters to put over her bed. I really want to do the room in dragonflies. We'll see what I am able to find. Wish me luck!
It'll be a busy day today, but hopefully we will get lots accomplished!
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
I thought I would share these pictures with you. I thought it was so cute. Anna came home from school last night and fell asleep on my bedroom floor. I looked back and there they were... Anna and Pearl resting together. Anna was completely out of it. Pearl was just joining her for the rest.
An update on Cameron - his little virus (aka HIGH fever) only lasted 24 hours. He had no other symptoms associated with it, and was back to himself by Monday. Strange, but I'm glad it was not something more serious.
Adoption: We are waiting on our home study completion. Hopefully we will hear something about that soon! Pray we make it through this phase of the process quickly! We are also waiting on our FBI criminal background clearance. I called on Monday and they didn't have a record of our fingerprint application in the system. Let's hope it is there and they are just backlogged. Maybe I will call again today.
Please pray as I contemplate some other areas of how I can be of service - how I can minister to others. There is a particular area that won't leave my mind. As I was talking to Tim about it today and said "I just can't get this out of my head!!!". He said that there was a reason for that. I'll spend some more time praying about it and asking God to lead where He wants me to serve.
Monday, October 5, 2009
This morning he is doing well. His fever appears to be gone and his appetite seems to be back. Not sure what was running though him, but I am glad it appears to be gone, and I hope it doesn't come back! I guess this is a great opportunity in disguise for Cameron and I to spend some time home alone, just me and him!
Adoption update: I am going to contact the FBI today to see where our fingerpriints are for our criminal background check. This is the only thing I have left to complete. I have everything else done! Hopefully our homestudy will be done soon and we can then send off for our I-171H. A special thank you to everyone who has helped us get all of our paperwork done so quickly. From our ever-present notary, to friends who wrote reference letters, to our guardians, to work people who filled out employment documents.... thank you all for helping us get moving so quickly! Hopefully Tim and I will get immigration approval quickly and we can be on our way!!!
Saturday, October 3, 2009
So, we had a jam-packed morning. I said I would bring a fresh baked apple pie for dessert. So, I got up at about 5:30 this morning to make it. It tasted delicious and was well worth the early hour of getting up to make it. Tim took Anna to cheerleading and I took Cameron and Hamilton up the road with me to take Pearl to the Vet. After that, we came home, waited for Tim to come back, and then Tim and I ran up to CVS to get passport pictures for our dossier. Then it was time to go to Cameron's game.
I met up with Heather at the game and we had a great time watching the game and chatting. We always have a good laugh! The boys won their game and then we headed over to Heather and Neil's house. We had a wonderful time. (if you ever read this Heather, know that we had a blast and have quickly grown to love your family :) We had a great dinner together and had fun watching the kids play and just getting to know one another better. Next time, it is at our home.
On the way home from their home though, I was thinking about Sara and how I wished that she was there with us. I wondered what she was doing right now..... or if she even IS right now. She could not even be born yet for all I know. Anyway, I was thinking about her. I think about all the kids in orphanages often. Tim and I will go and will love and care for one more, but we can't love and care for them all. What about the rest?
Lots of churches have orphan ministries, and I always wondered why ours could not have one. I wished someone would do something... put something together - if for nothing more than to raise awareness of all of the orphans in the world... knowing darn well we can't adopt them all... what more can we do. In my mind, there is so much more we can do, I just need to find an avenue to do it. How I wish someone would start something at our church. I wish someone would raise the idea. I wish someone would start an organization. I wish I could contribute... then for a fleeting second, I thought "Why can't that person be me?" Someone has to do it. Why am I waiting for someone else? Maybe there are a lot of someone's waiting for me.
I am not sure if I have it in me right now, but maybe I do. I don't know. It will definitely be something that I pray about. I will pray that God clearly shows my heart what needs to be done... what more I could do. I'm just glad I finally got to the point of questioning myself.... why wait for others? Why not me?